We all live our lives trying to avoid risky situtations and avoid the potential to be hurt, but life doesn’t always work out as planned.
As widows we have been taken out of our comfort zone so we may as well try something new and see if it works. It may, it may not, but you’ll never know if you don’t give it a try.
As long as you try to stay in that old comfort zone, you will find it hard to heal. Ignoring the pain doesn’t make it any less painful. You can’t hide from it by denying it or ignoring it. Change is disruptive…But it doesn’t make any difference. You have to get through it and survive.
Never under estimate your inner power to change yourself. You can do it!
Friday, July 31, 2015
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Get Emotional Support for Your Grief Journey
You’ll know that you’re detached and out of touch with how you feel when others seem more emotional then you. You may feel disconnected and emotionally unavailable. Try to open up to close friends or family members that you trust to honor your thoughts and feelings.
Although not for everyone, professional help can be just what you need to understand that it’s normal to be so unbalanced. If you want to talk to someone that can help you with the emotions that you’re faced with then get a Counselor that you’re comfortable with.
Ask other widows if they know of anyone that can help you, look up the local Community Health Clinic or ask your Family Doctor for a referral. Don’t hold back, this is the time to reach out.
The Sisterhood of Widows isn’t a blood tie, but women bond together in special way that makes us like a family. We share the parts of our lives that only other women can understand. It is important to spend time with a family of women to nurture and support ourselves. To be listened to, humored and encouraged by our women friends is a gift not to be taken lightly.
The following websites and authors are about living a life with purpose:
www.jackcanfield.com www.briantracy.com www.jimrohn.com
Stephen Covey, Anthony Robbins, Denis Waitley, Chris Widener, Vic Johnson (Goals2go), Bob Proctor, Zig Ziglar, Robin Sharma and Mark Victor Hansen are some of the best in the world so check them out. Most of the above authors offer free newsletters and samples so you don’t have to buy anything.
Although not for everyone, professional help can be just what you need to understand that it’s normal to be so unbalanced. If you want to talk to someone that can help you with the emotions that you’re faced with then get a Counselor that you’re comfortable with.
Ask other widows if they know of anyone that can help you, look up the local Community Health Clinic or ask your Family Doctor for a referral. Don’t hold back, this is the time to reach out.
The Sisterhood of Widows isn’t a blood tie, but women bond together in special way that makes us like a family. We share the parts of our lives that only other women can understand. It is important to spend time with a family of women to nurture and support ourselves. To be listened to, humored and encouraged by our women friends is a gift not to be taken lightly.
The following websites and authors are about living a life with purpose:
www.jackcanfield.com www.briantracy.com www.jimrohn.com
Stephen Covey, Anthony Robbins, Denis Waitley, Chris Widener, Vic Johnson (Goals2go), Bob Proctor, Zig Ziglar, Robin Sharma and Mark Victor Hansen are some of the best in the world so check them out. Most of the above authors offer free newsletters and samples so you don’t have to buy anything.
Tuesday, July 28, 2015
Financial Decisions
Financial decisions have to be made every time you turn around. Everyone has an opinion but not everyone is an expert.
This is your future security so be very cautious.
• Ask your bank about their Financial Planning Consultants.
• Talk to your Insurance Agent about your policies and financial planning.
• See your Lawyer to redo your will and ask about a living trust fund.
• Think about preplanning your funeral – it’s a gift to the family.
You have to take control because ignorance is not bliss when it comes to your money.
If you don’t know what to do or how to do it asking for help is your first step. We all need support when learning new skills. Check out the website http://widowed.ca/ for some great advise for Canadian widows.
• Take time to be grateful for what you do have and more abundance will come to you.
• Give to others -not just money but in sharing of your time to help someone else.
Living well does not require having a lot of money. And living within your means does not mean that you have to give up those things you enjoy. The key is to stop and ask yourself what truly makes you happy and go for quality of life not quantity of things.
This is your future security so be very cautious.
• Ask your bank about their Financial Planning Consultants.
• Talk to your Insurance Agent about your policies and financial planning.
• See your Lawyer to redo your will and ask about a living trust fund.
• Think about preplanning your funeral – it’s a gift to the family.
Can you afford to live the life you really want?
You have to take control because ignorance is not bliss when it comes to your money.
If you don’t know what to do or how to do it asking for help is your first step. We all need support when learning new skills. Check out the website http://widowed.ca/ for some great advise for Canadian widows.
Balance your check book and get your bills together. Know what is coming in and what is going out every month. Identify the expenses that are unnecessary and get rid of them. Ask yourself what adds value to your life. This website www.debtproofliving.com has some great advise.
• Give to others -not just money but in sharing of your time to help someone else.
Living well does not require having a lot of money. And living within your means does not mean that you have to give up those things you enjoy. The key is to stop and ask yourself what truly makes you happy and go for quality of life not quantity of things.
Tuesday, July 21, 2015
When Is It Time To Move
As a widow ages, she may want to remain in her own home because of her memories. But for many, their declining health may make that impossible.
Moving from the home you shared with your husband to a new place is never easy and a widow may not even be sure if a move is the right thing to do.
You don’t have to be old and sick before you make the decision to move. Many widows move because they want a smaller place with less maintenance. Others move because it will provide a more social environment or make their financial life a little easier.
The last thing you want to deal with is another major change in your life, so don’t take this step until you are ready.
Some signs that you may be ready to move:
Moving from the home you shared with your husband to a new place is never easy and a widow may not even be sure if a move is the right thing to do.
You don’t have to be old and sick before you make the decision to move. Many widows move because they want a smaller place with less maintenance. Others move because it will provide a more social environment or make their financial life a little easier.
The last thing you want to deal with is another major change in your life, so don’t take this step until you are ready.
Some signs that you may be ready to move:
- The house is less kept up and maintenance isn’t being done.
- Expenses for heat, taxes and insurance are hard to pay.
- Too many steps make it difficult to get around the house.
- It’s hard to keep the outside walkways shoveled in the winter.
- You don’t have a social life or see many people.
- The house feels empty and too lonely for one person.
- You are thinking more and more about moving to a smaller place.
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