Everyone grieves differently. There’s no single correct way to express the pain, sorrow, emptiness, and other parts of the transition need to learn to live on your own again.
Intense responses are sometimes seen as “losing control,” when in fact they’re simply how that person is actively (and productively) processing the loss. Let every one grieve and heal as their journey unfolds.
Most people never stop grieving a death; they learn to live with it. Grief is a response, not a straight line with an endpoint
Ignore oft-quoted rules and opinions that predict how long certain types of grief should last.
Learning how to grieve is ultimately part instinct, part stumbling along, part just getting up in the morning — a bit like learning how to live
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The grief process isn’t a steady fade-out, like a photograph left in the sun. Grief is a chaotic roller coaster — a mix of ups, downs, steady straight lines, and the occasional up chuck.
Periods of intense sadness and pain can flare up and then fade away for the rest of your life.
Some people never cry. Tears or outward expressions of anguish simply aren’t everyone’s grieving style, says psychologist Neimeyer.
This doesn’t mean they’re grieving less then someone who is visibly shaken or that they didn’t love the person just as much. Nor does a lack of obvious emotion mean the griever has an emotional problem or will fall apart at a later date or that they will have a harder adjustment to the loss.
It just means quite simply that everyone is different in all aspects of their lives and that includes grieving.
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